Gain and Pain of Self-other Interactions

Raghubir Singh Pirta                                                                           Panch. Ramalingam Himachal Pradesh University, Shimla                                                   Pondicherry University, Puducherry Individuals interact with each other and form relationships that have past, present and future. We assume that taking cognizance of a broad spectrum of self-other interactions in mundane life should help us in identifying the patterning of cohesive relationships for survival and growth. In this paper, the first objective is to revisit some researches on nonhuman primates that have relevance for self-other relations. Then we enter into three realms self where it mediates self-other interactions: the adaptive function of negative emotions that bothers clinicians and their clients; the aspects of self when it is hurt, a perennial issue from classroom to courtroom; and, the culture-specific narratives of self-other interactions involving natural and supernatural elements. Third objective is to present an integrative picture emerging from the observations and narratives of monkeys, men, and deities on gain and pain in group life. Keywords: attachment; cooperation; love; hate; mourning; separation; self; school.