Raghubir Singh Pirta Panch. Ramalingam
Himachal Pradesh University, Shimla Pondicherry University, Puducherry
Individuals interact with each other and form relationships that have past, present and
future. We assume that taking cognizance of a broad spectrum of self-other interactions
in mundane life should help us in identifying the patterning of cohesive relationships
for survival and growth. In this paper, the first objective is to revisit some researches
on nonhuman primates that have relevance for self-other relations. Then we enter into
three realms self where it mediates self-other interactions: the adaptive function of
negative emotions that bothers clinicians and their clients; the aspects of self when it is
hurt, a perennial issue from classroom to courtroom; and, the culture-specific narratives
of self-other interactions involving natural and supernatural elements. Third objective
is to present an integrative picture emerging from the observations and narratives of
monkeys, men, and deities on gain and pain in group life.
Keywords: attachment; cooperation; love; hate; mourning; separation; self; school.